How to INSTANTLY Get Better At Attracting Women

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1. Own up for your lack of success.

This is a big thing to do. Why? Because when most guys fail to get the girl... they blame the woman. They say something to the effect of "she doesn't know a good thing when she sees it" or some other rationalization. Problem with that is... it does NOTHING at all to help you get better with women. All it does is act like a cozy warm blanket for your feelings and your ego. Do you really need a warm and cozy blanket for your feelings? Or do you need to get more positive reactions from the women you want to date?

2. Put a stop to doing things that make it harder to attract women.

What do I mean by this? Well, let's say that your average Friday night consists of shooting pool with a couple of guys in a place that has not had a desirable woman walk into it in ten years, lol. Stop going there and wasting your Friday nights. Start going to places where the odds are in your favor and you KNOW that there are going to be desirable women. I would much rather hit up a popular nightclub even if it made me feel a little "uncomfortable" at first than to spend my time somewhere where I know that I am not going to meet a good looking woman.

3. Don't take advice from guys who are not actually getting results.

Would you take business advice from a guy stocking shelves in a grocery store? Probably not, at least... not if you actually wanted to start up a real business, right? Well, why would you follow the advice of guys that just do not get women? I can remember being younger and following the advice of guys that really did not do any better than I did. The moment I stopped listening to them... things got MUCH better.

How to Steer Clear of Abusive Men

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1) An overly aggressive man is much more likely to end up being abusive.

If you notice that a man you are interested in does not seem to be able to exert enough self control and gets overly aggressive, then chances are... he does have the potential to be abusive. Of course, in the beginning, he probably will not be that way towards you. They never are. However, if you see him act this way towards other people, that may be your warning sign that one day things could change and his aggression could end up headed in your direction.

2) A guy who tends to bottle up his emotions is a lot more likely to explode later on.

A lot of women get "tricked" by this, because they see him being passive or he does not seem to show a lot of overt anger. However, you can usually tell when someone is bottling things up. Not every guy who bottles up his emotions will be abusive, but this is a warning sign that the possibility may be there.

3) It usually starts with verbal abuse and then escalates.

This is a really important sign to watch out for. If he gets verbally abusive, it can just as easily escalate to something more physical. And even if it does not escalate to physical abuse, verbal abuse can be just as bad and hard to live with. You don't want to end up with a guy who finds a way to put you down every day of the week, do you

3 Dating Tips for Women whom are over 40

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1) There are probably many, many more places where you can meet a man who shares common interests with you than there were when you were in your twenties.

Technology can be a very good thing sometimes, and this is definitely one of those times. Thanks to the internet, you can now connect with people who have similar interests as you. No more having to go through a screening process just to see if they share common interests. Of course, you probably still want to have some kind of a screening process in place, but you will find it a lot easier to meet someone who shares the same likes and dislikes as you do.

2) You know what you want out of life... so don't allow yourself to compromise.

This is a trait that most women over the age of 40 have that they did not really have when they were in their twenties and it's a GOOD thing. Back then, you probably were not too sure of exactly what it was that you wanted out of life, so it was easy to compromise when it came to who you dated. Now, you don't have to face that problem, so make sure that you don't allow yourself to compromise because... you really don't have to!

3) Don't be afraid to date a younger man, if that sounds fun to you.

With the rise of the "cougar phenomenon" there are many more younger men who are very open to the idea of dating an older woman. If that is something that you want to explore, by all means... go for it. Twenty years ago there may have been a social stigma to this, but that is getting lifted every minute that passes.

How to Get a Girlfriend By Expanding Your Social Circle

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I get asked for quick tips on how to get a girlfriend all of the time. And while there are many that I think are really important and really effective, one that really stands out is this: You have to expand your social circle if you really want to get a girlfriend fast. More than just getting a girlfriend fast, expanding your social circle will help you to make much better choices with the women you date. Now, you might be wondering why that it is, and that is what I will try to touch on in this article.

When a guy is really desperate to get a girlfriend, it usually has to deal with one of two things going on in his life. Either he does not have much experience at all with women, or he is finding himself feeling lonely a lot. Many times, these two things overlap, though not all of the time. And that is where expanding your social circle can really make all of the difference.

I am sure it's no surprise to hear that most men end up in relationships that are not quite up to their hopes, their dreams or their expectations. We've all seen examples of that, and maybe you have been in a relationship that fits that bill before. A lot of the time that has to do with the lack of options available to a guy. See, when you get to that point where you feel desperate to get a girlfriend and you don't have many "options" available to you... chances are you are going to end up in a relationship with the first woman you can.

Manage your self-talk about women.

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Locker-room talk with the guys happens, but if that's how you refer to women in your own head, objectifying them as body parts is going to manifest and you'll drive the good ones away. Get neutral and positive in your head. Your date isn't a "babe," a "dog," a "ball-buster," or a "heart-breaker." She's a woman, she's got a name, she's got traits, qualities, and a personality.

And don't tell me "men fall in love visually." That's like saying "toddlers throw things when they get mad." We have a 50% divorce rate going on right now, and it isn't because a man trying to marry a pair of legs is such a great idea.

The divorce rate for second marriages is 60%, and for third, 70%, which means those that didn't learn the first time, don't learn again, and that's the definition of insanity -- doing the same thing and expecting a different result.

Marriage is a lesson in learning TO love A REAL HUMAN BEING, not falling IN ove with a turned-up nose, which requires EQ, and if you made a bad call, like choosing a woman whose bra size is bigger than her IQ, it's one long painful trip to hell that can wreck your health and finances. It's particularly risky to marry a woman 20 years younger. The odds are against you, heavily, and smart guys play the odds, right? You would have to be at least 40, and the statistics say the older the man at the time of the divorce, the more likely it was the woman who filed. Ergo, she'll be the one to leave. If the man did it for ego, he has dug his own grave, which is what ego creates.

The Shy Guy Advantage

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1. Monitor your self-talk. Keep it positive and affirming. Talk to yourself the way you'd talk to a buddy you wanted to encourage.

2. Monitor the self-talk of other guys. If it's one thing guys lie about, it's their prowess with women. Every man's in there taking his knocks just like you are.

3. Your emotions don't have to stop you in your tracks. You can be nervous and keep going. You can be worried about rejection and still take a risk. This is like a workout, building character muscle, aka tolerance for frustration.

4. Start from the inside out. What are you shy about? Make a list of all you have to offer and believe it. If there's something you need to work on, get some coaching and take care of it. Otherwise, take pride in who you are and stay centered. Not all the women will like you, but you need all the women. You just need HER.

5. Practice where it's safe. Being outgoing is something you can try with the person next to you in the grocery line. Talk to strangers. Watch outgoing people and see what specific behaviors they do - the eye contact, the tone of voice, the posture, the conversation-starters. It isn't a mystery, it's a set of skills, like a tennis serve.

6. If she asks you out first, that's fine, but you must take charge or you're going to be moved into the "just friends" category. Take over and be spontaneous. Don't ask her what she wants to do or where she wants to go. Plan something any woman would enjoy and expect her to go along. Use your gut feelings.

If He Says He's Not Looking for a Relationship.

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How many times have you or someone you know fell into that oh so easily slipped into trap mentioned above: women so anxious to be with someone, that they overlook what the person is telling then and end up incredibly hurt and angry in the end when things don't work out they way they'd hoped. Ladies, you've got to understand that when a man says, "I'm not looking for a relationship, right now," he means he's NOT LOOKING FOR A RELATIONSHIP RIGHT NOW! It's just that simple. He may think you're great. He may think the sex with you is the best he's ever had. He may think you're the best thing since cornbread. But that still doesn't mean he's looking to make you his lady.

The reality is for men relationships have a lot to do about where they are in life. Maybe he wants to focus on his career. Maybe he just got out of a relationship and wants to be single for awhile. Maybe he just isn't ready for the responsibility of having a girlfriend. Whatever the reason it adds up to the same thing: He isn't looking for a relationship right now. So listen when the man of your dreams tells you that. Listen and listen well. Be his friend. Be his confidante. And most importantly keep your panties on. And maybe just maybe when he's ready for a relationship he'll remember what a great friend he had, one who was there for him when it mattered and think, "Why look somewhere else for Mrs. Right when she has been right here with me all along."