Keep your eyes pretty.

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Do not check out other men. Even when done on the sly many men will pick it up. Loyalty is one of the most important qualities that men look for in a woman. If he sees you looking at other men, he will start to question your ability to be loyal.

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The one above is one, and the following make up the rest.

1. Being late. Being late at acting awards is quite cool, but you're no Angelina Jolie and I'm no Brad Pitt and we're not vying for any awards. In my book there's nothing more annoying than your date showing up late. You're looking to get off to a great start right at the get-go so don't be late, you'll be fighting an uphill battle before the date even begins. Show some respect, please.

2. Blabbering. Okay, your date did show up early, but then he/she starts talking nonstop about himself/herself. Could be a sign of nervousness, you say? Could be or you could be talking to a self-absorbed swellhead with an ego the size of Manhattan. If you're guilty of this, please stop. It's simply not cool.

3. Checking out someone else. If you're with me, your eyes should be ON ME at least half of the time. I give you permission to look at the floor or ceiling or your shoes once in a while, and your food, but never, ever, let me catch you checking out that sexy dude at the other table or I'm out of there faster than you could say, "Wait!"

4. Being kiss and tell. And on Facebook and Twitter, no less! I know this is the digital age and some of us just have this compulsion to share everything about what we do on a daily basis. But for the love of God, please refrain from posting blow-by-blow status updates about how your date is going, what he/she looks like, the food you're feasting on, and whether you are making out inside the car at 11 p.m. Especially if your date happens to be one of your contacts.

What Do Men Really Like!

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With men is all about priorities and which things comes first, so based on this theory here are some tips you can use when dealing with your man;

1. Do not call him girly related names even if joking, that will piss him off and will take a while for him to get over it.

2. Let him be a man, you be the softer side, you are supposed to.

3. COOK!, if you know how and have the time so cook!, in fact get your man involved in the kitchen, we love it! Guess what.... Most likely your man will start cooking too.

4. Share your man his interests, some of it not all... I know how stupid this may sound but men love women who share their interests.

5. Men like a little to no makeup at all, if they liked the way you looked after you woke up next to him the first time, you are secure, no need for extra make up.

6. Tell him your problems when the time is right, don't over complain just tell him what is it that bothers you straight up, without going in circles. The timing is important and I will let your gut decides that.

7. One person's garbage is someone else's treasure. Let me put it another way: The right guy is going to find your weird habits absolutely adorable. Don't be afraid to joke, laugh, and bring out the real you! Guys love simplicity.

Do Not Assume That You Know What Is Best.

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You may want to do what you feel is right, and you may even feel very passionately about doing so, but sometimes this just isn't the case. Take a step back and think about things in better detail before you take action on anything.

A man who sees a woman make an inappropriate mistake that could have been avoided will likely come off as being somewhat immature. Avoid drama at all costs and get some opinions before your final decision is set in stone.

Silly mistakes, on the other hand, such as tripping over your own feet, are perfectly normal. Don't be afraid of making a few every now and then and learn to laugh them off.

What you need to know is that you do not need to have it all figured out.

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You only need to make the first step and reach out. That is the only truly big thing that needs to happen. You must approach them by simply walking up to them and saying hello. You do not need to plan it out because a conversation can go in many directions.

If you try to plan everything out, this may overwhelm you and probably cause you to hold yourself back form approaching them at all. The bigger you make the moment in your mind, the harder it will feel. Try not to think about the outcome or what will happen, simply plan on approaching this person at the next best opportunity.

If you let the moment go by because you are afraid, then you will never know what could have been.

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To be afraid of someone solely because you like them is understandable, but the fear is there because you do not know if they like you. You could hit it off and plans could be made, but you will never know if you are too afraid to talk to them. Remember, it is only the opening you need to have and try to be yourself.

Try to remind yourself that this is only another person just like you, someone you may like, but they may like you as well. If we keep ourselves from reaching out because of a fear of rejection, then we will never know the other person or find out what could have been. If you are not meant to be together or go out with each other, then you will find out, but only if you approach them first.

Keep it simple; do not over-think it or worry about it, just approach them and try to be yourself.

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Try to keep yourself centered and in a comfortable space. If you are nervous, then take deep breaths and do not think about what might happen. Clear your mind, calm your emotions, and have confidence in yourself. What is the worst that could happen; this person turns you down? If they do, then you are free to move on and let the crush go. 

In fact, you owe it to yourself to find out now, rather than feeling the way you do about them and never doing anything about it. You will not regret having tried. In fact, you will be proud of yourself for being so brave. Rejection only hurts for a moment, but a crush can last forever. Find out if your crush could become something more because it could. 

Wouldn't you like to know? Be brave, if only for that moment; trust that either way you will be okay and just say hello. Don't over-think it; remain calm and be yourself. When the right moment comes in your conversation to ask, do. Just ask and be proud that you did. Ask if the other person would like to get together, create the option to get connected; that is all you need to do. It is not any more overwhelming than just one question, and you can do it. Let yourself find out if there can be more because there really could be.

How to INSTANTLY Get Better At Attracting Women

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1. Own up for your lack of success.

This is a big thing to do. Why? Because when most guys fail to get the girl... they blame the woman. They say something to the effect of "she doesn't know a good thing when she sees it" or some other rationalization. Problem with that is... it does NOTHING at all to help you get better with women. All it does is act like a cozy warm blanket for your feelings and your ego. Do you really need a warm and cozy blanket for your feelings? Or do you need to get more positive reactions from the women you want to date?

2. Put a stop to doing things that make it harder to attract women.

What do I mean by this? Well, let's say that your average Friday night consists of shooting pool with a couple of guys in a place that has not had a desirable woman walk into it in ten years, lol. Stop going there and wasting your Friday nights. Start going to places where the odds are in your favor and you KNOW that there are going to be desirable women. I would much rather hit up a popular nightclub even if it made me feel a little "uncomfortable" at first than to spend my time somewhere where I know that I am not going to meet a good looking woman.

3. Don't take advice from guys who are not actually getting results.

Would you take business advice from a guy stocking shelves in a grocery store? Probably not, at least... not if you actually wanted to start up a real business, right? Well, why would you follow the advice of guys that just do not get women? I can remember being younger and following the advice of guys that really did not do any better than I did. The moment I stopped listening to them... things got MUCH better.

How to Steer Clear of Abusive Men

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1) An overly aggressive man is much more likely to end up being abusive.

If you notice that a man you are interested in does not seem to be able to exert enough self control and gets overly aggressive, then chances are... he does have the potential to be abusive. Of course, in the beginning, he probably will not be that way towards you. They never are. However, if you see him act this way towards other people, that may be your warning sign that one day things could change and his aggression could end up headed in your direction.

2) A guy who tends to bottle up his emotions is a lot more likely to explode later on.

A lot of women get "tricked" by this, because they see him being passive or he does not seem to show a lot of overt anger. However, you can usually tell when someone is bottling things up. Not every guy who bottles up his emotions will be abusive, but this is a warning sign that the possibility may be there.

3) It usually starts with verbal abuse and then escalates.

This is a really important sign to watch out for. If he gets verbally abusive, it can just as easily escalate to something more physical. And even if it does not escalate to physical abuse, verbal abuse can be just as bad and hard to live with. You don't want to end up with a guy who finds a way to put you down every day of the week, do you

3 Dating Tips for Women whom are over 40

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1) There are probably many, many more places where you can meet a man who shares common interests with you than there were when you were in your twenties.

Technology can be a very good thing sometimes, and this is definitely one of those times. Thanks to the internet, you can now connect with people who have similar interests as you. No more having to go through a screening process just to see if they share common interests. Of course, you probably still want to have some kind of a screening process in place, but you will find it a lot easier to meet someone who shares the same likes and dislikes as you do.

2) You know what you want out of life... so don't allow yourself to compromise.

This is a trait that most women over the age of 40 have that they did not really have when they were in their twenties and it's a GOOD thing. Back then, you probably were not too sure of exactly what it was that you wanted out of life, so it was easy to compromise when it came to who you dated. Now, you don't have to face that problem, so make sure that you don't allow yourself to compromise because... you really don't have to!

3) Don't be afraid to date a younger man, if that sounds fun to you.

With the rise of the "cougar phenomenon" there are many more younger men who are very open to the idea of dating an older woman. If that is something that you want to explore, by all means... go for it. Twenty years ago there may have been a social stigma to this, but that is getting lifted every minute that passes.

How to Get a Girlfriend By Expanding Your Social Circle

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I get asked for quick tips on how to get a girlfriend all of the time. And while there are many that I think are really important and really effective, one that really stands out is this: You have to expand your social circle if you really want to get a girlfriend fast. More than just getting a girlfriend fast, expanding your social circle will help you to make much better choices with the women you date. Now, you might be wondering why that it is, and that is what I will try to touch on in this article.

When a guy is really desperate to get a girlfriend, it usually has to deal with one of two things going on in his life. Either he does not have much experience at all with women, or he is finding himself feeling lonely a lot. Many times, these two things overlap, though not all of the time. And that is where expanding your social circle can really make all of the difference.

I am sure it's no surprise to hear that most men end up in relationships that are not quite up to their hopes, their dreams or their expectations. We've all seen examples of that, and maybe you have been in a relationship that fits that bill before. A lot of the time that has to do with the lack of options available to a guy. See, when you get to that point where you feel desperate to get a girlfriend and you don't have many "options" available to you... chances are you are going to end up in a relationship with the first woman you can.

Manage your self-talk about women.

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Locker-room talk with the guys happens, but if that's how you refer to women in your own head, objectifying them as body parts is going to manifest and you'll drive the good ones away. Get neutral and positive in your head. Your date isn't a "babe," a "dog," a "ball-buster," or a "heart-breaker." She's a woman, she's got a name, she's got traits, qualities, and a personality.

And don't tell me "men fall in love visually." That's like saying "toddlers throw things when they get mad." We have a 50% divorce rate going on right now, and it isn't because a man trying to marry a pair of legs is such a great idea.

The divorce rate for second marriages is 60%, and for third, 70%, which means those that didn't learn the first time, don't learn again, and that's the definition of insanity -- doing the same thing and expecting a different result.

Marriage is a lesson in learning TO love A REAL HUMAN BEING, not falling IN ove with a turned-up nose, which requires EQ, and if you made a bad call, like choosing a woman whose bra size is bigger than her IQ, it's one long painful trip to hell that can wreck your health and finances. It's particularly risky to marry a woman 20 years younger. The odds are against you, heavily, and smart guys play the odds, right? You would have to be at least 40, and the statistics say the older the man at the time of the divorce, the more likely it was the woman who filed. Ergo, she'll be the one to leave. If the man did it for ego, he has dug his own grave, which is what ego creates.

The Shy Guy Advantage

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1. Monitor your self-talk. Keep it positive and affirming. Talk to yourself the way you'd talk to a buddy you wanted to encourage.

2. Monitor the self-talk of other guys. If it's one thing guys lie about, it's their prowess with women. Every man's in there taking his knocks just like you are.

3. Your emotions don't have to stop you in your tracks. You can be nervous and keep going. You can be worried about rejection and still take a risk. This is like a workout, building character muscle, aka tolerance for frustration.

4. Start from the inside out. What are you shy about? Make a list of all you have to offer and believe it. If there's something you need to work on, get some coaching and take care of it. Otherwise, take pride in who you are and stay centered. Not all the women will like you, but you need all the women. You just need HER.

5. Practice where it's safe. Being outgoing is something you can try with the person next to you in the grocery line. Talk to strangers. Watch outgoing people and see what specific behaviors they do - the eye contact, the tone of voice, the posture, the conversation-starters. It isn't a mystery, it's a set of skills, like a tennis serve.

6. If she asks you out first, that's fine, but you must take charge or you're going to be moved into the "just friends" category. Take over and be spontaneous. Don't ask her what she wants to do or where she wants to go. Plan something any woman would enjoy and expect her to go along. Use your gut feelings.

If He Says He's Not Looking for a Relationship.

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How many times have you or someone you know fell into that oh so easily slipped into trap mentioned above: women so anxious to be with someone, that they overlook what the person is telling then and end up incredibly hurt and angry in the end when things don't work out they way they'd hoped. Ladies, you've got to understand that when a man says, "I'm not looking for a relationship, right now," he means he's NOT LOOKING FOR A RELATIONSHIP RIGHT NOW! It's just that simple. He may think you're great. He may think the sex with you is the best he's ever had. He may think you're the best thing since cornbread. But that still doesn't mean he's looking to make you his lady.

The reality is for men relationships have a lot to do about where they are in life. Maybe he wants to focus on his career. Maybe he just got out of a relationship and wants to be single for awhile. Maybe he just isn't ready for the responsibility of having a girlfriend. Whatever the reason it adds up to the same thing: He isn't looking for a relationship right now. So listen when the man of your dreams tells you that. Listen and listen well. Be his friend. Be his confidante. And most importantly keep your panties on. And maybe just maybe when he's ready for a relationship he'll remember what a great friend he had, one who was there for him when it mattered and think, "Why look somewhere else for Mrs. Right when she has been right here with me all along."

You use a lie to win her over and she busts you on that lie.

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Many men try to rely on lies to win over a woman and what they do not realize is, how easy it is to get busted on that life. When that happens, do you think she is still going to have a good impression of you? This is not a movie where you can cleverly talk your way out of it, this is real life and most of the time, getting busted on a lie means that you are going home alone.

Be Realistic and Play it Casual

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Don't make the issue of asking someone for a date a very big issue. This only adds more tension to an already tense situation. Let your invitation to the date be as casual and sincere as can possibly be as this will help ease the situation for you.

Remember to keep it cool if you get a no, responding gracefully and maybe another time, probably with someone else and it could turn out to be a big "yes". Persistence is the key. Good luck.

Don't Ask but Invite.

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Avoid using passive phrases that end up tying you up without a providing space for you to maneuver around in case the first response from the other person is not all too positive. Phrases like "Would you like to go out with me sometime?" are dead ends if the person says a "no". Don't use questions that provide an easy way out that might make easy for the intended date to give you a "quick no" for an answer.

It is a good idea to be specific regarding when precisely you intend going out on the date giving possible options on the date/time so the other person to check their schedule. In essence you should try to be creative by offering specific opportunities/places for the outing as well as an alternate timing within which the other person can negotiate.

It's Okay to Say 'No, Enough!'

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Some years back, I bumped into an old school friend who by the time we met had been married for two years. She told me how she and her husband had bought a house on the same street as her mother and she'd regretted the decision ever since. Her mother, she said, had to pass her house on her way home from work every evening. If she saw lights on in Joanne's house, she'd taken to dropping in to say 'hello' and have a chat. However, the 'dropping in' had developed into a daily routine and had become a source of conflict for Joanne and her husband who like most newlyweds were longing to create a life of their own. To resolve the problem, the couple had resorted to arriving home and remaining in the dark until they were certain Joanne's mother had passed by and gone home.

Another woman I knew, in her thirties this time, was living alone when she decided to give her mother a key to her home believing it an excellent idea on several different levels. However, it didn't seem such a good idea when her mother took to putting the key in Fidelma's front door and strolling into her apartment unannounced. On one such occasion, Fidelma had to scamper quickly out of her bedroom to avoid her mother opening her bedroom door and discovering Fidelma had company.

Niamh is constantly trying to build her business and it involves a certain amount of networking. Just recently, one of her valued contacts admitted while under the influence of alcohol, "I've always fancied you." Niamh chose to deflect the conversation to another topic however, since then her married contact who used to call only occasionally with possible leads has since taken to calling her most nights and over the weekends. While Niamh wants only a professional relationship, she's been feeling uneasy about the recent turn of events. Niamh is handling the situation now by avoiding her contact's calls and responding to his voicemails by email apologising blaming her unavailability on meetings or family events.

All women are different.

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Essentially, you cannot consolidate women into one big group and generalise their behaviour. They act differently to each other. They do things for different reasons which you often don't realise. Each woman is individual, which is why the real trick to succeeding with women is to be adaptable to each woman separately. You need to be aware of how she will perceive various actions of yours, and furthermore, the potential consequences, whether positive or negative, of her perceptions. Some of numerous examples include:

• Realising how she will react when you say certain things.
• What she will think of how you treat other people.
• How you behave in various situations.
• How you treat her not just on a date, but generally.

These are broad examples. I'm not saying that every woman is going to be thinking exactly this when she's with you, though it is important to acknowledge that there is the potential for her to be thinking any of these thoughts. What you do will affect her opinion of you, though as long as you're aware of your situation, you will be prepared for it.

Go out and socialize.

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Once you start to socialize, you will receive invitations to get-togethers and venues organized by your friends and their friends. Once you attend, be polite. Make sure you meet the organizer and his or her crew, show respect.

Enjoy the party, however dedicate enough time to meeting key social connectors. Soon after you befriend these people, they will maximize your social life. To surf your iPhone for cool events, use Meetup. UrbanDaddy will give you tips for going out in the bigger U.S. metropolitan areas. For all others, there is always the explore section of Foursquare.

Make Your Current Relationships Count ,

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Have a look at your social network and pick those of your friends and acquaintances that you genuinely like to be around. Ensure your ambitions and lifestyles are congruent. Hang out with them more and develop a strong inner circle of friends.

Add value to their life and avoid demanding for something in return. Organize a movie evening or throw a picnic in the park. Invite your friends. Just take out your iPhone, open Facebook app, and send out an invitation. To be certain your important friends arrive, call them and invite them personally.

Make sure that when you go out to meet women, you have all of the logistics set up so that you can let things flow.

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One thing that can really throw your chances off with a good looking woman or any woman for that matter is not having the logistics right so that things can just flow. What I mean by this is, let's imagine that you are in a club and you see a really attractive woman that really catches your eye.

You walk over to her, you start talking and everything seems to be heading in the direction where she wants to be alone with you. The problem is, you came with some friends and so did she, and you left your car at home. So, there really is no chance of taking her home, because the logistics are all crossed up. Get these little details set up before you go out.

Look for chance to strike a conversation with that someone.

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If not a personal one, a little group conversation will be good. Try to participate in the conversation, getting his or her attention. Look into the eyes, drop him or her a nice warm smile. Let that someone know that his or her presence is felt, being felt by you. A smile with the right eye contact at the right timing can sometimes works wonder than to words. But please, keep the conversations entertaining. If you are bad with jokes, don't try it! Don't risk making yourself a clown.

For guys, show your gentlemanliness, hold the door for her, offer seat to her; offer her a ride home... But remember, be natural, take things slowly, don't overdo it and scare her off the very first time.

For girls? Well, you always got a little more privilege. Just be sure not to make yourself look unfriendly, Smile... Look him in the eyes and drop him a nice little sweet smile of yours. Do you know that your smile is enough to melt a man's heart?