Manage your self-talk about women.

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Locker-room talk with the guys happens, but if that's how you refer to women in your own head, objectifying them as body parts is going to manifest and you'll drive the good ones away. Get neutral and positive in your head. Your date isn't a "babe," a "dog," a "ball-buster," or a "heart-breaker." She's a woman, she's got a name, she's got traits, qualities, and a personality.

And don't tell me "men fall in love visually." That's like saying "toddlers throw things when they get mad." We have a 50% divorce rate going on right now, and it isn't because a man trying to marry a pair of legs is such a great idea.

The divorce rate for second marriages is 60%, and for third, 70%, which means those that didn't learn the first time, don't learn again, and that's the definition of insanity -- doing the same thing and expecting a different result.

Marriage is a lesson in learning TO love A REAL HUMAN BEING, not falling IN ove with a turned-up nose, which requires EQ, and if you made a bad call, like choosing a woman whose bra size is bigger than her IQ, it's one long painful trip to hell that can wreck your health and finances. It's particularly risky to marry a woman 20 years younger. The odds are against you, heavily, and smart guys play the odds, right? You would have to be at least 40, and the statistics say the older the man at the time of the divorce, the more likely it was the woman who filed. Ergo, she'll be the one to leave. If the man did it for ego, he has dug his own grave, which is what ego creates.